COUPLES

Acknowledge, address and resolve what's broken- sooner rather than later- and get clarity on whether there's a path to a win- win resolution. The majority of couples contact me because of an Extramarital Affair.  

Through my many years of working with a wide variety of couples, I’ve discovered a unique and very successful methodology for doing couple’s counseling.  I will initially meet with the couple for several consecutive hours at a time (if at all possible and with the couple’s agreement) and do an in-depth evaluation of the couple.  At the end of the initial session, the couple and I become clear about the issues that need to be addressed and resolved. Step number 2 involves meeting with the people individually and doing thorough in-depth individual assessments. If I discover that one or both clients have significant individual issues, that might include depression, anxiety, early child sexual abuse or addictions of any kind, it has become obvious that these individual problems must be dealt with first.

Throughout my 35 years of treating couples, I have found that it is simply not possible to deal with his/her and their problems all at the same time. I have found that couples counseling can only be successful when both individuals are well on their way to dealing with their own individual issues. Then and only then is it really possible to fully focus and resolve the couple’s problems.